Ha, i know what you are talking about - some people over on Explorer Forum are pretty unhelpful...
Anyway, from what you are explaining, it sounds like you will be happy with a Borla or Magnaflow muffler. If you want quiet, keep the original pipes (which should be 2.25" or 2.5") and just swap the stock muffler.
If you want the OEM look, but a bit louder than the single exhaust with the aftermarket muffler, keep the OEM pipe but have the shop add another matching pipe to the passenger side. This will create mostly the same sound as a single exhaust, just a bit louder.
Also, another thing to add some depth to your exhaust is a nice set of 3x18" or 3.5x18" exhaust tips. The bigger the tips, the deeper the note.
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