what bolts hold that thing on? lol

i sound like such a tard but i figure theres no harm in asking

pics would be a great help!

 

the valence is attached to your bumper. if the valence is flush with the bumper, then it is not too low.

 

There is like a dozen 8mm little screws that bolt the valance to the metal bumper. There are some tabs that hold those 'ears' on the sides. It'll be easier to unbolt the bumper assymbly (4 bolts) and pull it off to get access to the bolts that hold the valance on...they are tricky to get at.