fuse was bad, changed that. relay also was bad, changed that, then my friend (who is a mechanic said the resistor "rusted together" so the 2 metal sides were touching, causing an "arc" which he said most likely blew the relay and the fuse.
OK... resistor, fuse, relay, all changed, everything worked... UNTIL about a block after i left his house.
and the air bag light is still "on"
Thanks for the help!